Cheated On My Hairdresser. What To Do Now?

I cheated on my hairdresser after ten years. I wanted a totally new look and he was keeping me in stasis and always convinced me to keep my hair long. I love my new cut but I miss my old hairdresser. I want to go back to him but I don’t know what to say? Will he take me back? He’s listened to all my venting and woes over the years and I really love him. I just don’t want to hurt his feelings. How do I tell him I cheated and what if he’s upset? Is it normal to feel this way?

~ Shiny New Do

Dear SND,

Many times long-term relationships get stagnant in any form. Believe it or not it’s normal to feel weird about this. Hell, one of my friends still flies in the eh states from Canada to get her hair done by one of her favorite stylist.  I know many women who feel bad switching it up.  I think we get attached because we tell our dirty secrets to our hairstylists. They are great listeners because they have to pay attention to our hair while we babble on about our divorce, sex life, or career woes. 

Think of it this way: asking for what you want is one of the hardest things to do, so use this as practice. Tell him the truth. Tell him you just wanted to try something new, but you miss him and want to come back. If, for some reason he shaves your head when you’re not looking, I would then seek out someone new. 

I’d look at it this way: he’ll probably be honored that you returned to him.  Any man or woman wants to deliver the goods to someone they care about. Perhaps the communication gap will be fused to a new and amazing relationship and both of you can bask in the new-found spark.