My boyfriend really wants to have a threesome with another girl but I feel uncomfortable with idea even though I’ve been in a couple of threesomes before with a past boyfriend. My current guy and I have been dating for about four months, he knows I like to fool around with girls because he lets me make out with girls at parties. The only threesomes I’ve had was with a man I had been dating for over a year. They were all fun, but now I’m scared of threesomes for some reason. I still love the idea of licking pussy and want to so it again but don’t want it to hurt my relationship.
~ Feeling Weird
Dear Feeling Weird,
Threesomes can be awesome and bonding or negative and messy. It’s common for both men and women to fantasize about it; it’s a whole other story when everyone gets naked. It sounds like you an your ex-boyfriend were in a long term relationship and had already built a foundation before you both jumped into the threesome fun. When threesomes are done properly it’s a triple win-win-win scenario. When it’s done poorly it’s a crap shoot and often someone gets hurt. The problem is that most of the time threesomes are done as a spontaneous drunken decision that can leave everyone feeling weird.
Since you’ve only been with your new boyfriend for four months, which is a short amount of time, I would work on building a foundation with him. I would use that time to build on your communication skills around sex and emotions.
It sounds like you would be into an occasional threesome if you and your new beau were on the same page and had already built trust and you each felt safe. I’d wait it out. If he loves you he’ll be patient and want to create a safe container for you to explore and have fun in the future.
This is an age old question. This depends somewhat on a variety of factors such as the size of the person’s tongue; whether they concentrate the licking on just one side; how hard they press with their tongue; amount of saliva; etc. In any event, many researchers and others have attempted to tackle this problem with the following results:
I googled it for you and the answers come from this page:
***Engineering students from Purdue University created a licking machine that mimicked the human tongue and the licking motion. They then tested this machine against real tootsie pops with the results being an average of 364 licks to get to the center of the tootsie pop licking from only one side constantly.
***These same students from Purdue also tested this against their own tongues and found that it took an average of 252 licks to get to the center, again only licking from one side, but this time with real tongues.
For a little more off the wall results, students at the University of Cambridge concluded that it takes 3481 licks to reach the center. One can only deduce from their results that the University of Cambridge has the most timid lickers in the world.
***According to Tootsie Roll Industries, over 20,000 letters from children around the world have been mailed to them concerning this issue since 1970 with the average child reporting that it took them about 600 licks to reach the center. No doubt the higher number of licks is accounted for by their smaller tongues and the fact that they weren’t necessarily concentrating on one side only.
***This latter theory is also backed up by independent researchers who found by licking one side, then rotating to the other side and licking again and continuing to do this until you reach the center, that it takes an average of 508 licks to reach the center using the “even licking” method.
Why is this site called Askzigzag? What or who is zigzag? Are you a stoner or a drug dealer? Were you’re parents hippies? ~ Just Curious.
Dear Just Curious,
Just to confirm, no, my parents were not hippies. My mother was a poodle-skirt wearing 1960’s family girl and my father was a Sinatra-rat-pack looking Italian guy who wore suits. That being said both of my parents love my nickname (which is now my middle name) and my mother says it should have been my name from birth.
It was at first a nickname given to me during my first visit to Burning Man in 2003. Someone read my astrology chart and said it was one big zigzag. Then the name went viral when I used it as my social media avatars. My personal blog, Ms.ZigZag, came out in 2005 and before I knew it everyone was calling me Zigzag, or Z. Note: I do not like to be called Ziggy.
After a few years I decided to try a social experiment and legally changed my first name to Zigzag from 2006 – 2010. I learned fast that it was not the best idea. Every time I took a plane the airport police would frisk me.
So I made it my middle name instead mostly for giggles.
What I’ve learned is this: we all zig and zag. Success is not a straight line and sometimes our detours are the best things that happen to us. That, and it’s a lot of fun to take out my ID and show people that my middle name is, in fact, ZigZag.